Do you think one can leave a baby in the car and not be a bad parent?

How can you have 4 people in a car and not even one notices the baby is back there in the car seat? I think they did it deliberately. It wasn’t a big issue when I was young but I did pull a toddler out of a hot car one afternoon and just about whipped the mother. She came to visit, we knew she was unbalanced & she loved to sit around & talk which was mostly BS lies. Sometimes she’d leave the boy with other people but this day she left him in the car. I heard a car horn honking and looked out the door and didn’t see any other car beside hers...thought someone had driven up and drove off. Then a couple minutes later I heard it again. I went to the car and there he was on the driver’s side floor sweating & with sand & pieces of cigarette tobacco sticking all over his face and arms. He had been trying to pull himself up by the steering wheel. I picked him up & he was crying & smelled like pee & sweat. By this time the mother & my aunt came out and saw me & I lit into that mother & told her if I ever saw her do such a thing again I’d whip her. She was shaking and almost twice as big as me, I was 14 at the time.

I do think accidents can happen. I have 4 children and nothing like leaving them in a car unattended/forget them has ever happened to me. But I still think it can (devastatingly happen). With that said..I noticed a young lady in a local convenience store I frequent. It was a very hot day. She was carrying her pet lizard in a plastic carrying with her in the store. And I said to her "I'm impressed (and applaud you), you wouldn't leave ur lizard in the hot car for just a few moments while you ran into to the store?"..and she said "definitely not never "..

So...I think its hard for people to understand mistakes when such a disparity (that we all have some experience with exsists)..Its awful, and again I have no 1st or 2nd or 3rd hand experience with "hot car accidents " in my life. But I do truly believe horrifying accidents happen.

How can you forget your baby? like "whoa, are we forgetting something? How come it doesn't smell like pee and shit anymore?"

I suppose but I can not imagine forgetting a baby anywhere, your keys a pocketbook your phone
..sure, but a baby?

Two people and not one could remember that the baby was in the car? Bullshit.

People forget things all of the time, but ya don’t forget a baby.

No. I was really, really wrenched if I had to leave my DOGS in the car...even with the windows cracked...to run into a store for 5 minutes and run right out. I felt like a HORRIBLE dog mother, and even though it was only 5 minutes my dogs could have been stolen.

I would sooner chop off my hand than leave my baby in the car alone, even if the baby was sleeping and it was not hot out. I have had to wake up my son and he was a screamer! He would start screaming and just wouldn't stop if you woke him up.

But this is the middle of summer. What kind of idiot...after hearing ALL the horror stories and the arrests of parents who leave their baby in the car and the baby DIES...what kind of idiot would DO that?

And didn't this idiot think for one minute that babies are worth about $10,000 each on the black market?

SMH. Just SMH.

As with any situation, it should be assessed case-by-case. But my first reaction is to assume neglect. A baby is the center of attention of a parent at all times... How could someone forget that? But it's possible I guess.

I can’t imagine anyone still believes it’s safe to leave a child closed up in a hot car. Good people can be forgetful, but I cannot make sense of how an adult caretaker commits such a tragic error.

I live in Chicago. I've lost count of how many carnappers get in a car with the baby in the back seat because mom or dad run into the gas station for cigarettes or something else and don't lock the car. Sometimes, they even leave it running or a door open! Then,when they discover the baby, they abandon the car and run away! There should be pricey tickets for that idiocy.

No.. You cant. Unless you are being dragged off to the firing squad.
Social services should now be reviewing whether the baby can be put up for adoption. Some parents just arent fit.

No parent forgets their baby.

She is a BAD and disgraceful parent

I think a baby shouldn’t be left alone in a car.... Not really abuse or neglect but it seems very wrong to me.

I don't know how you forget a baby in general ...how completely selfish can a person be to do that ?

Without knowing the all the conditions it may be the best place to leave the baby. Let us assume it is a small town and the job is to check the mail at the local mail box and it is 40 below. The best place for the baby is likely in the nice warm car instead of it getting frost bite. If the baby is to be left for any length of time and is in danger of overheat or cold.... It is best to take the baby out of the car.

No way can you forget baby in car