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What do a lot of parents do that screws up their kid?

PrincessPenny · 26-30, F
Try to be their friend instead of being their parent.
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Lynn1976 · 46-50, F
@PrincessPenny Thank you for saying this. Kids need a parent. We can be 'friendly' but not their friend.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
Micromanaging them.

Not allowing them to talk about things that are bothering them, or work through their emotions in a healthy way. Forcing them to stuff everything inside.

Doing everything for them and not allowing them to become self-sufficient, to keep them dependent upon them.

Laughing at them when they talk about their hopes and dreams, or what they want to do when they grow up. Undermining their self-confidence at every opportunity.

Assuming that they are to blame if they ever have a conflict with someone else. Of course, the opposite is just as bad - insisting that their perfect little angel can do no wrong if they hear that their child has done something bad. Getting to the truth is important, but sadly not all parents seem to feel that it's worth the effort to get to the bottom of things, when it's easier to make assumptions based on how they're feeling at the moment.

Not allowing them to have any personal boundaries. Reading their diary, snooping through their personal belongings, listening in on their phone conversations if they happen to be talking on a landline (my dad did that to me once, back before I had a cell phone).

Comparing them to their siblings, asking them why they can't be more like their brother or sister.
TheIncredibleHulka · 31-35, F
@TeresaRudolph71 I can relate to some of these points being followed at our home and I feel sorry for myself. 😅
My parents were (still are) control freaks and they once made it very difficult for me to attend my music classes when they discovered a guy they didn't like much was interested in me. I had a nervous breakdown shortly after that experience and had to be taken for counseling where the doctor asked them to give me some space. Sadly that didn't happen.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
@TheIncredibleHulka I'm so sorry to hear that. I know, it's very hard to live with parents like that. I hope things are better now, though I know that people like that rarely change for the better.
Platoscave · F
@TeresaRudolph71 eloquent.

all true I say.
TheIncredibleHulka · 31-35, F
Oh I dunno... Compare them with other kids so that they'll always doubt themselves, impose their choices and decisions on their kids so they lose their ability to think independently, being overprotective, emotional blackmail... Everything my parents have done. I probably sound like an ungrateful brat, I know I wouldn't be where I'm without my parents but that's that.
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CodeLyoko · 16-17, M
no parents are perfect but it doesn't mean you can't point out their flaws especially if they have hurt you and really treated you wrong. my mom is a bad parent even if she tries her best but doesn't mean ill say that to her face but i will have an opinion on it and share if with others if i want.
TheIncredibleHulka · 31-35, F
@CodeLyoko agreed. That's what I have said here. Who knows may be I'd disappoint my kids as a parent and I won't go about emotionally blackmailing them if they decided to tell me how I wronged them.
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Doomflower · 36-40, M
Fail to adequately prepare their children for adulthood.
goagainsttheflow · 26-30, F
Yelling every time the child opens up about something they are struggling with.
@goagainsttheflow thats bad :(
NativeOregonian · 51-55
Not letting them learn from their mistakes.
@NativeOregonian good one :)
NativeOregonian · 51-55
@Awfullybrave Thank you :)
TexChik · F
Micromanage
@TexChik Yes
TexChik · F
@Awfullybrave kids don’t like it, and become resentful
@TexChik I agree :)
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Living in an abusive relationship while kids endure the trauma silently. Or, in name of disciplines pretty much torture kids
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nonny · 56-60, M
Shame and even abuse over things they can’t help because they’re little. One of the first and worst examples is slip-ups in toilet training.
samanthasmokes · 36-40, F
Easy one! Give them a smart phone!
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@TheyWhoseNameCanNotBeSpoken 😖😖😖😖😖😖😠
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CodeLyoko · 16-17, M
act like children and teens don't have real opinions or emotions
(parents see their kids emotions and opinions as less vaild)
NativeOregonian · 51-55
@CodeLyoko My 73 year old mother still treats my older brothers and myself like that, yet treats our much older stepsisters like equals.
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Platoscave · F
@Bootsiebaby That's not PC today but still kinda normal, not a screw up.
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Giving them everything they want and not what they need
Platoscave · F
Neighbors MUST be aware and then report it.
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Platoscave · F
@Bootsiebaby No

But I see so many of those questions here, you know what kind,...that I scarcely saw this question, just got a bit knee-jerk about it.
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@RippinKlouds Omg... Please God forgive him 😂🙈
HypnoChode · 46-50, M
Indoctrinate then with religion.
imo21169 · 41-45, F
Tell them to look at them and follow😉
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
Not trusting in their abilities

 
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