I don't wanna come off as offensive but why are most daughters so ATTACHED to their mothers so much?

My girlfriends including best friends are so close with their mothers. They have wonderful bonds and that's great but I also get jealous when I see that and others because they had mothers in their lives. Even ones that have mothers that live in a different place, they get to talk to them and visit and their mothers are happy to see them. I get bitter and sad too. Mother and daughter days I NEVER got to experience that. My mom....is a deadbeat woman. Let's just say that. She wasn't really part of my life and didn't want is. She thought I was a mistake. Why can't I have a mother to talk to? It isn't fair!

zeeva70 · F

Maybe if you ever have a daughter, you'll have a loving relationship with her that you didn't have with your mother. That's how it worked out for me and I'm now satisfied.

PavlovsPuppy · 100+, F

@EmptyGirl2001 I agree with Zeeva.
You can't change what happened, as much as you wish that you could. You can't push a button and magically make the mother appear that you should've had.
The thing is that you can either internalize all this pain, and let it drag you down for your whole life, or you can take that pain and turn it into something positive.
You will be a great mom yourself one day, because you won't let your kids down, like your mother let you down.
So there are a few positives, you just have to find them.

zeeva70 · F

@EmptyGirl2001 This book helped me tremendously, also joining FB Groups with women with mothers like my own. "Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers" by Karyl McBride. Now it doesn't bother me anymore.