Why are most courts on a women’s side when it comes to deadbeat parents?

It's leftover from past gender roles, I would suppose. 75, 100 years ago, most women couldn't survive without a man to support them. Now that single women make more money than single men, we still have that judicial infrastructure, which hasn't caught up to the change. And there's not much desire to change it, either, because reasons.

There's also the idea in society that women are "objects" [not in a dehumanizing sense], in that they cannot act--[i]they are acted upon. [/i]

Whereas, men are viewed as "agents": [i]they act; they are not acted upon. [/i]

That's kinda a default perspective which a lot of people default to. Instinctually, imo.

I.e. "Why is a woman a stripper?" Because her dad forced her into it, one way or another.

"Why aren't women going into science and technology?" Because men keep them from doing so.

Etc. etc. If you look around, you notice it a lot. Women aren't really responsible for their actions. They're viewed as children, which is kinda fucked up.

So, in a sense, a woman having a child isn't something that she did--it's something a man did *to* her, regardless of the fact that she has 100% control over reproduction. So it's the man's responsibility.

I got a buddy who's making $41k a year. He's divorced with a kid. He pays $21k a year in child support. His ex-wife makes $120k a year, not including the child support.

"Patriarchy."

I am not trying to start a war here, but the courts unfortunately DO still tend to favor women. When My Ex-wife cheated on me repeatedly and I went to a lawyer to start divorce proceedings, here is what I was told...I had a clear cut case and there was no doubt that divorce should be granted because of infidelity, however I was advised NOT to file against her because the lawyer said he had seen it backfire too many times and the woman com out smelling like a rose. I was advised that it would be in my best interest to let her file and then he related an incident he was involved in (he didn't give sensitive information like names) where a woman ran off with a lover and even abandoned her kids, and the courts gave her half his property as well as ordered him to pay her alimony. He was on disability and still had to raise those kids himself and she was never ordered to pay child support. Anyway, the bottom line was that the courts still tend to favor women over men, it's changing but it's still got a long way to go. Had I not taken his advice and sued her for divorce, she could have destroyed me instead of just cause the damage she did.

You make an excellent point. Probably not while we still care, but hopefully someday what’s sauce for the goose [b][i]will[/i][/b] be sauce for the gander.

Courts are on courts sides thicko

It is kind a screwed up. The other parent is basically responsible for paying the others rent and food bills. Yes they are obligated to feed and house their children but half of living expenses is more than fair. No reason the other parent should be eating or paying their whole rent off of the other.