Im not sure what to do about my sons daycare

While I'm in classes my son stays at the university child care center. 2 weeks ago I picked him up to find a bite mark that broken skin on his arm from another child. Today he's got bruises were looks like somebody hit him or pushed him into something hard.

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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

I am guessing that the first step is to talk to them.. explain what you have seen and ask them how they think he could have sustained those injuries. If they dont know then they SHOULD because they should be watching and recording any incidents.. Your next move maybe is to ask them what they are going to do ensure that he is safe while he is there.. YOu could complain higher up? If not then tough as it is you may have to move him

Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@Adaydreambeliever that's what had to do about the biter it was a nearly 4 year old special needs kid and finds out he bit about half the kids in the toddler room. They had to ask his mom to make other arrangements

shans20 · 26-30, F

Ask him what happened, then ask the staff. If he was bit or pushed by another child then they should have told you about it, but they also need to have it documented and recorded. If they don't tell you or refuse to tell you anything then take it to the manager/centre director. Children's safety should always be their highest priority. It's possible that maybe he just fell and they didn't know there was bruising as toddlers/preschoolers can just bump themselves on anything and everything, but it is definitely worth checking out and following up even for your own peace of mind. You need to feel comfortable that you're leaving him in safe hands and somewhere that he feels safe!

TwiddlerofThumbs · F

Have you asked the daycare staff questions? How old is your son?

Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@TwiddlerofThumbs he's nearly 3 the first incident I did it was from an older child with special needs who has now been removed from the center due to behavior including biting alot of kids. I'll ask about the bruise tomorrow I didn't see it until I got him home and was changing his clothes

TwiddlerofThumbs · F

@Mountainlady16 defiantly ask questions when you can. But kids do play hard so don’t assume the worst. However, if an incident did occur, they should have told you about it.

Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@TwiddlerofThumbs they should have they did the bite

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

Ask the carers about this and point out the marks,. Kids will be kids and stuff happens as they sort things out. But those carers should be able to explain it. And if strategies need to be put in place you have alerted them that you notice and they should fix it,. Squeaky wheels get grease.

Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@whowasthatmaskedman true maybe I'm overreacting I'm not used to leaving my child with complete strangers.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

Overreacting as you call it is mothering. Nothing wrong with it. But for all you know, until you ask, your child may have started it. So asking is the first step. Most of these places are run by good people. And they will probably be supportive once they know you are mother enough to approach them..@Mountainlady16

Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@whowasthatmaskedman true my son isn't usually a fighter but could have a simple fall too

lovelywarpedlemon

What are your options?

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Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@lovelywarpedlemon my plan next semester is mostly online course cause I'll have a newborn than

lovelywarpedlemon

@Mountainlady16 oh my goodness sounds like you're doing the best you can. hang in there. at least this is a temporary situation. I am concerned about the signs of physical abuse, though.

Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@lovelywarpedlemon yeah the daycare at my college is supposed to be one the best though and they did remove the biter after several moms complained

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