Does anyone parents do this after a fight.?

I'm not saying they should keep being mad and hold a grudge but why after a big blow out fight and having a screaming match the next day they act like nothing happened. It makes it more awkward.

*EDIT*

To clarify I meant my parents and I fighting not with each other.

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plungesponge · 41-45, M

My parents were the same. Nothing actually got resolved, just steam was blown off and the timer reset till the next screaming match.

If you follow the MBTI personality model, they are likely to be sensing, judging types. Sensing types trust what they see and experience (sense), this is what they rely on. They don't really trust abstract concepts and that often means they miss the underlying reason for a problem (they see such thinking as mumbo jumbo, but they are quicker to spot it when that reason creates a visible, tangible problem in real life). Judging types need order and get very shitty if things don't work (ie they tend towards confrontation). So they spot an issue and it drives them crazy, they have a confrontation and blow off steam, but after a superficial fix they don't see the problem anymore. Until the underlying reason brings it up again.

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ZenKitzune · F

@plungesponge why I dropped my defences around you lol. And yes, total freak. 😅

plungesponge · 41-45, M

😆 You're one too?

ZenKitzune · F

@plungesponge nah I just have a soft spot for them. I'm a bit of a mix as I'm 50/50 extrovert/introvert and feeling/thinking. I'm closest to intp though.

SW-User

The reason they act like nothing happened is because they've gotten over it. There are some people who have that kind of relationship. They fight like crazy, then move past it quickly. It's their dynamic.

justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

@SW-User I get that. It's not a regular fight though and I feel things take time to calm down.

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@justicexoxoxo

What you feel isn't necessarily how they feel. They obviously have their own way of coping with big issues that works for them. Also, sometimes people put aside their differences when there isn't an easy resolution. They wait until they calm down and then talk it out. This may be a situation where there's a huge problem and they recognize they aren't going to resolve it by screaming at each other and have decided to table it until they can collect their thoughts.

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justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

@GreenscornbreadandYams I should clarify. I meant my parents and I fighting.

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justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

That's personal.

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justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

@Originalkingfish Umm yeah...no. Thank you for the imagery and mental scarring. I appreciate it.

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Noblety · M

Has that always been their dynamic?

justicexoxoxo · 26-30, M

@Noblety Yes. It's like I'm not a robot and don't have a reset button. After that, I need my space and they don't get that.

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