Is my behaviour wrong?

I am 19 btw.
I have made new friends and i am going out with them all the time.
It is summer and so before i start work we go for breakfast.
My friend finishes work at 9pm and we hang out afterwards until midnight then I go home.

My parents think that I should be at home and I am being rude by leaving all the time. They even think that I am on drugs because I am out all the time!

I have depression and going out really helps to keep me mentally stable and social, which is a big pull factor for me.

I am always having to sneak past them whereas at my house I go and come whenever I please (I am visiting for the summer).

Am I being unreasonable going out with friends all the time?

Should I be allowed to?

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Mamapolo2016 · F

I think there’ s a lot of room for compromise between always and never.

If you’re visiting your parents, then in my opinion you should spend time with them. Otherwise you are just using their house as a shower/change/sleep convenience.

You don’t have to spend ALL your time with friends or parents. Just because they’re parents doesn’t mean they don’t have feelings. You are their child, they love you and want to enjoy your company at least sometimes.

Steve42 · 56-60, M

I say this as a parent and as the child of parents. Parents want all your attention, children want to live their lives. There is no endgame to your struggle.

DaughterOfTheDust · 22-25, F

Well, it’s a bit of a tough situation. If you’re at your parents house, you do want to try to be respectful of their wishes and of the time while under their roof. Staying out until midnight for majority of the week is a tiny bit disrespectful because you’re coming home extremely early in the morning and they could have been worried about you all that time. A solution would be to maybe stay out that late on the weekends only. Also, your parents may miss you and want to spend time with you. If you’re gone that long all the time then they don’t have an opportunity to that. Of course there’s nothing wrong with hanging out with friends for the summer, but cutting back on the hours may be a good idea. You can get home earlier at a reasonable time or see friends less frequently.

cd1019 · 41-45, M

You're just being a typical teenager, and your parents should accept that...ask them if they'd prefer you were isolating yourself and making your depression worse.

RemovedUsername634280 · 41-45, F

Do you pay board

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RemovedUsername634280 · 41-45, F

@VioletSea if you pay no board you have to follow their rules. If you pay board you have a say.

VioletSea · 22-25, F

@RemovedUsername634280 Thing is I wanted to stay at my house and they refused. I wanted to live with my friends but they refused that too so I am foreced to be under their rules that I didn't choose which sucks but that is life I guess.

RemovedUsername634280 · 41-45, F

@VioletSea tell the your a grown woman, buy them something nice to show you appreciate them and then move out. Promise them you won't forget and make a point of maybe Sunday dinner every Sunday?. I'm speaking as a mom. 😊

RemovedUsername634280 · 41-45, F

Your very lucky to have parents who love you so much. X

Mk8155 · M

You are 19 you should make your own decisions but don’t leave your parents out

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