I don't agree with my family on religious issues?

I imagine you're on the lower end of 18-21? If so, maybe they just haven't come to terms with you being "my child". Not seeing you as a full-grown woman capable of making her own decisions, ever. [read the other post]. Ahh. That's more difficult.

My overly Christian parents were the same way, for a long time. Though, they were smart enough to know they couldn't stop me from doing anything.

So long as you live there, not much you can do. You could try to fight them on making you go to church. Incidentally, a great way to achieve that would be using the bible as a source to justify you not wanting to go to church. Or about how churches are just giant money shells that don't really care about Christianity, but about all the moolah it brings in. My hardcore Christian parents decided that, themselves. "You don't have to go to a building to worship God. God is everywhere."

If you could back that up with a bible verse or two, in contex, it might help.

Sounds lime your dad is beyond set in his beliefs. If you want to buy yourself some wiggle room until you move out, you're gonna have to move around in that small little box of his. Use his beliefs and counter them within his belief structure. "Church is the most important thing." "Why, when they just preach their version? Shouldn't everyone be able to interpret the bible? Isn't that why God made it? So what is the purpose of church? Why can't I worship in my own home, rather than jusy going to church because "That's what you do."?

In any case, you want a lot of questions, to sidestep his massive ego. You want to appeal to him, as if he thought himself as unfallible as God. Since my parents found it, I imagine there's nothing in the biblr claiming you *have* to go to church.

Well. Basically, you need to either make yourself such a big pain in the ass that they just give up, or work inside his box and flip the script on him.

And, fuck your dad. When yoy move out, you move out. If he does anything, call the police and tell them he's harrassing you. Maybe that'll wake him up to your independence. Once that day comes, man just run for all you're worth.

Anyways, yeah, I'm gonna go there.

I don't think your situation is uncommon. I could go in to a lot of reasons why that is but I'll just say I'm sure it's very difficult. I was browsing around Reddit the other day and came across some groups dedicated to helping people get through what you're dealing with. Maybe you could get the perspective from those who have gone through it too..

As an atheist from the outside looking in I can see the machinations at play when it comes to "you're either with us or against us." I'm not sure if there's any way to change that. But just know that irrespective of everything else...life is a solo. For everyone. Living it for someone else, in a way that's counter to who you are and what you believe, is a recipe for disaster.

I think that once you get out on your own, and start making your own decisions, things will start to clear up a bit. Hopefully, your Dad will come to understand that he raised a strong daughter able to make wise decisions on her own and he'll support you. If he doesn't, that's his loss. And his mistake. It has nothing to do with you.

Good luck.

[i]("To thine own self be true")[/i]

I've read lots of 'my parents are forcing me to attend church' posts. My advice remains the same. Move out.

[center][/center]The Bible is full of wisdom and many scientific facts not discovered by man until 1000's of years later the world being a sphere being one fact. Quarantine to stop the spread of disease another. I have a strong faith but no religion. Religion is an invention and divides rather than heals. You don't need religion to have a faith. The Bible also teaches faith hope and charity are virtues which make us better people but Love conquers all and even though we should have faith without love we are nothing.

I have read both your Q's.. and unfortunate that your parents have been thoroughly brainwashed and to them its just a club/social activity and living for their pride. They may have spoken ill or ostracized other parents and that would have made them insecured and turned them into control freaks.

The best way is to start written communication with them. Never confront orally. If they have emails, ideal.. else use snail mails and write all you feel. Ask them to also reply the same way.

What is the point in forcing you to go to church. seek and you shall find . You cannot force people to find truth truth will find you. If you compel someone to do something that they find difficult to accept eventually they will find their own truth. It's a bit like having strict rules about sex people will do what they want eventually . Many religions are strict about sex but early biblical text taught we sghould be fruitful and fill the earth that's hardly being celibate

I didn’t read your second post but I think once you move out as long as they aren’t financially helping you at all - they can’t control you. You will be in charge of you! It might be a tough thing to say but you might just have to tell them that you’re an adult and will make your own decisions

Can't "force" you to, but compulsion can be subtle. Fair, as a deal to live at home. But I keep silent a lot about. My unbelief. Religions nbtends to control, so brace yourself, but stay at it

Why would they need to know. Let's say your getting married. Your parent's want you to do it a certain way. Just tell them you don't want to. And it is your wedding

Where does Jesus fit in all this? Do you believe the Gospel?

Your faith must be your own, not your parents.

Just do your own thing

Religion is a very very personal matter. I hope that they do not scare you away from taking your time to research religion and understand the truth that is within it.