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Is sibling fighting normal?

So I was talking to my friend the other day, and I casually mentioned how my older brother still hits me when we fight like he did when we were kids. (Granted, he doesn't all out punch me with all of his strength or anything. He usually slaps me, so I slap him back.) She immediately got extremely concerned, and said that that wasn't normal. My brother is 21, and I am 19. I don't find it abnormal at all. Siblings fight after all, right?
They do but I don’t like him being physical, not even in the slightest, not as adults anyway.
@Selfexpression I agree, I don’t have siblings but I would think it to be weird to be physical when fighting past a certain age range. 🤷🏽‍♀️
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I’m 19 and my brother’s 21 too and we used to fight a lot as kids since we simply hated each other.. but now not at all. We don’t even talk much and just mind our own business. Mind you we still piss each other off at times but then it’s only verbal name calling lol
butterfly1013 · 26-30, F
When you're adults and slapping each other not so much... but yes it is normal to have fights with your siblings to an extent when you are grown.
Red30 · 31-35, F
Haha why is everyone freaking out...this is normal! I'm 25 and my brother is 26 and we still act silly sometimes. Maybe not slap each other but i'll trip him up when he walks past and he'll do the same kind of thing back, like a playful punch on the arm, but nothing really hurtful. It's a sign of brother/sister affection and we laugh about it. I guess some siblings are more serious with each other due to what the age gap is....? and some are weirdly affectionate with each other like weird wrestling on the sofa. No thanks!
@Red30 lol weird wrestling on the sofa 😂😂😂
Red30 · 31-35, F
@Stark Yeah! They were just close, nothing weird. I'm still friends with them today and they're ...you know, not up to anything like THAT. But it still made me feel uncomfortable because my brother and I are close but don't show it through wrestling or anything :P
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@Red30 You laugh about it. You see it as essentially affectionate. That's fine for you. But if she felt that way, she would probably not post the question here. She is not being injured or anything like that, but hitting is a violation of one's personal space. And when she says it hurts, he says it's not so bad, it's OK because he thinks it's OK...She sounds as if she barely thinks she even has a right to question it anywhere but here.
I don’t have a brother but I have a sister. And I stopped fighting like that with her in probably early high school. It sounds like he might be a little bit aggressive. It’s probably nothing you can’t fix. Just tell him to stop it and don’t hit him back the next time he does it. But I suppose everyone is different so I guess you have to decide for yourself if you think it’s normal and whether you mind or object to it.
xRedx · M
Yeah, it's kinda abnormal. Especially at his age. My sister is only a year younger than me, and God knows very well that she pisses me off at times, but that's never crossed my mind.
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DDaverde · 56-60, M
Yes but at this point he should
Know better he’s 21 not 10 now
freeb · 61-69, M
"I don't find it abnormal at all." and you're exactly right. If it doesn't hurt you, great, if it does, tell him, I"m sure he's not even aware you're being hurt. I have 2 younger sisters, and we still have the same type of bond and relationship you speak of.
@freeb Generally when I tell him that it hurts he goes "No it didn't.. I didn't even hit you that hard."
freeb · 61-69, M
@marilynmichelle then you need to tell him, in a serious way, that it hurts you. Make it clear to him. Everybody is different
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@marilynmichelle Wait a minute! HE does not get to judge how much pain YOU feel! Only you know that. And [i]any[/i] complaint about any degree of violence should be respected and taken seriously. This is the classic response of an abuser; they tend to minimize whatever they do and accuse you of being too sensitive. But the truth is, any kind of hitting among adults is a violation of the victim's personal space and boundaries and essentially an act of dominance. Most adults do not consider this acceptable.
My brother stopped hitting me when I started getting boobs.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
What he does is not normal at his age.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
Hitting is not normal!
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Fighting is normal, but physical fights probably shouldn't still be happening. It's juvenile and there are better ways to handle your aggression that don't involve hurting each other.
tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F
When you were growing up yes but but not now as adults.This should stop!
If he slaps you again kick him in the balls instead!
freeb · 61-69, M
brothers and sisters have a special bond, nothing is abnormal, don't fret 💙
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@IstillmissEP Meaning? 😂
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@IstillmissEP I have no idea what you're talking about, but okay. 😂
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My parents did not permit us to put violent hands on each other. Arguing was one thing, but hitting, no. So I've never understood households where that was allowed to go on.

 
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