What is a good Father like?

I've seen them so they do exist, and i recognize their importance to a child. But they are elusive.

I never had a good father but my husband is a wonderful father. Always there to give advice (but only if asked for), shows he loves his children and is an excellent role model for them. They are all grown up now but are still very close to him. I sometimes think how lucky my daughter is to have a father that really cares and will drop everything for her to help her out.

i have 4 kids i am a father to all of them and they are all treated the same even though 3 are step children. I see a lot of comments about step parents being nasty. Some of us are good loving people and being accepted is the hard part

i wouldn't no myself, growing up my dad wasn't really there .. he took me and my sister out on day trips but he wasn't what you would call a father, he missed all my school plays, birthday parties, the special moments that i wanted him there but trust me sweetie, when i turned 20, we had a heart to heart and he apologised for everything, we're now quite close and what i would call a 'father!' so don't think just because he's horrible now, he won't regret it in the future! just stay strong, you're young and got your whole life ahead of you, i no it's hard but just focus on the love that is surrounding you by others. :)

Those that are shitty people, teach you allot, that is not to be like them.
We need to be challenged in life. The dysfunctional ones teach us not to be like them, they show us what toxic people are up to and how to detect them.
So keep your radar alert, and build up your own self-worth and self-love.
You are your key to your foundation in life.
Concentrate on you and let those that love life drama stay away.
We learn from all types of people.

JesusFan1999, i am so sorry to hear that! that should never have happened, honestly, you're better of without a father like that, but trust me he will regret it! he's the one who's going to be alone, not you! stay positive! always here if you need someone to talk too! x

@vikiii, Honestly, I don't know that he'll care enough to think about if it's something worth regretting. The only time he was even remotely there for me was one weekend I stayed at his house, and he physically and verbally abused my siblings and he brainwashes them often, and he also sexually abused me and he wasn't just a horrible father, he was a horrible human being. However, I am very glad that your father came around.

Well then my dad is definitely not a good father.

Thank you vikiii, and thank you too Penny for giving such a great answer. I think I have a better understanding of what a good father is like.

I am sorry you think that, because they are not. A good father has his families well being in his mind always.

Be present and be caring. That's the only two things you have to truly worry about while parenting.

Can u message me? I can't seem to send you a message

He is my biological father.

I believe that a father can be someone who has a lot of problems, who can be extremely mean... Yet he brings you up even though his personality is like that, he pays for you even though in his mind you do not deserve it, he goes against his own personality... Because you are his child and he is supposed to be the father :) This is my case at least, I wouldn't know if it's a good father or not, but it has worked out anyways. I am here, alive, and I can see what is wrong and right.