I Am Confused About My Relationship

Your sense of self is low. That is you need to build up your self-worth.
WHY?
People or partners will always push your insecure buttons. It is normal part of life, then how you internalise the actions of others, happens in you.

Work on you, to be complete and validated by you. You will never ever be validated from your mate/children/family/co-workers ....

Aim to be in each moment as it is ....else if you hang onto what people did to you, you will empty you. You will become depleted, your body energy will fail you.

Are you always tired? if so, then see how this drains you.

Yes, people are mean, they also help.

Then become your own best friend in life.

Yes, you need to talk about it and work it out!

Shayla, it's not over. Just because he was born with a penis doesn't give him the final say. If it does, you have a larger issue.

He's just hit you. If you accept it once, you accept it always. There is no going backwards.

Put a stake in the yard, with his things next to it. Attach a sign to the stake that says,

[quote][b]"This issue is never going to be brought up again"

I think you're right. [/b][/quote]

If you ever want to talk about it I will lend you my ear and my shoulder...

Perhaps he was jealous that you could express your feelings but he couldn't and so he was frustrated and angry and maybe, embarrassed and that was his way of escaping that. I wonder how you could approach the issue in a non-threatening way to him. It seems important to you!

It is always complicated.. more so because we are 'cultured' to not speak our minds .. hence our feelings become twisted and warped with moral guilt .. and hence impossible to forget something that remains trapped within us i think..

That is definitely not fair and kind of childish to do that to someone.

The feelings are still there, it will come up again until it is resolved.

terrible way to end a argument... the scars will be there and continue to build and fester....

OH please it will be brought up again

Yes...this is what someone was doing to me. The fact it never got solved made it worse and then I was made into a nag because I would not give in to letting it go.