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I Am a Survivor of Child Abuse

It was subtle...a childhood of light starvation and emotional neglect. However, definitely all is forgiven. But rather than be a victim, I have defined it as just a ying to the yang of life. Life is made of suffering and joy. We go through points (sometimes) years of good or bad, but with time things almost always shift. That is why the need to keep moving and growing no matter what you are in. The day will come when the cloud breaks. To get caught in a self-imposed trap of self-pity and victimization is the worst thing you can do. Regardless of your right to feel sorry for yourself, it will only do more harm than good. The moment you place yourself as a victim, you define your life experience as less than that of another and it also takes away from their struggle (which we all have). The damage will never go away...take it and own it (you have no other choice). Embrace your pain, use it and flourish the best way you can. For me, the abuse moved my thinking into a creative way to break traditional thought patterns, which makes me a good teacher and problem solver.
silentwriter180 · 51-55, F
I am right by your side in agreement. I was abused as well. In a different context, maybe, but still...
All we can do is step and look ahead, make our lives our own, look up and embrace the future. Yes, there are memories, and yes, it still hurts, but it's made me even stronger in life today.
silentwriter180 · 51-55, F
@okaybut Don't forget those little things in life too, my friend.
okaybut · 56-60, M
@silentwriter180 Definitely...one of the most important things you understand as you get older. :)
silentwriter180 · 51-55, F
Indeed!! 🙂
BlueRain · F
I’m sorry for what you went through. But you prevailed!
okaybut · 56-60, M
@BlueRain Thanks....actually have a great relationship with my mom now (she got medicated for depression in her late 40's and changed remarkably). And even learned from her...after she started healing...she had this incredible guilt, but never stopped fighting and moved forward with her life and in bridging a relationship with us kids. She did it. :)
BlueRain · F
That’s great!!! You also have closure. Hugs!
SW-User
Its one thing to make the choice to be a good kind person and more highly evolved than our abusers .
What about those of us whose abuse wasn’t light?
It was severe and a horror and it left psychological issues that were caused? You can’t choose not to have PTSD or DID.

 
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