I Have a Crush On Someone I Shouldn't

I have a crush on my history teacher. He's 20 years older than me and I don't know how it happened but I dreamed of him one night and then I woke up with a whole different feeling. When I see him I feel so nervous. I'm never tired of looking in his eyes.
The last day of school I got him a present and he wanted to hug me but felt confused and awkward so I never got a hug from him.
My friends says that I will forget him as soon as I am out of his class but my feelings are just getting stronger with time.
What should I do?
Pls help

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bhatjc · 46-50, M

Is he married or single. Just find him on social media and see what happens

Sakurari · 26-30, F

@bhatjc: he is not active on social media

bhatjc · 46-50, M

@Sakurari: get his email and start to communicate

khaledkhaled · 31-35, M

If he is married you ain't have a chance if he's not just do what your hear tell you.. Age is never a problem

SW-User

focus on something else

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bhatjc · 46-50, M

@Sakurari: crush on one of your fellow students

Sakurari · 26-30, F

It's not like I chose to crush on my teacher 😣@bhatjc:

bhatjc · 46-50, M

@Sakurari: That is true girl. The heart wants what the heart wants

Sakurari · 26-30, F

He's not wearing any ring and he doesn't seem to have a partner at home.

SailorMarz · F

Get over it?

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Trinitythree030303 · 31-35, F

@Sakurari: As a chronic dater of much older divorcees with children, here is my advice:

They control the relationship. I do feel that my ex genuinely cared about me as a person, but I think a lot of why older men get into relationships with younger women is because they like the sense of power and control. They've lived more life, dated more women, etc. They know how to manipulate and make you feel like you need them.

Kids (if he has custody) make going out, taking vacations, being crazy difficult. Be prepared to spend a lot of time at home. In order to spend time with him I spent many weekend nights just having beers at his house because he couldn't leave his son home alone.

Divorcees, especially recent ones, will want to get out there and be single again. It doesn't matter how old they are. It's important to find out if you are a part of their "sowing their wild oats" phase or not. Although you are dating, having a younger girlfriend is oftentimes (in my case) just a natural part of transitioning back to being out in the dating/fucking shark pool. A good way to gauge this is - does he introduce you to his family/friends?

Sex will be awesome. Don't let this cloud your judgment. They will buy you shit, take you to nice dinners, etc. Don't let this cloud your judgment either.

That being said, I don't think these relationships can never work, but in my experience they are oftentimes more of a novelty than something real. Proceed with caution.

Sakurari · 26-30, F

Thank so much for your advice. Do you think I should tell him how I feel?

Trinitythree030303 · 31-35, F

Honestly, a lot of people are oblivious to obvious signs so cleverness is most likely going to fly over their heads.

In my experience people who like you, platonic or not, will want your company. They'll make themselves available. Like, they'll cancel prior plans to spend time with you.

mathsman · 70-79, M

Mine feelings are still strong for one of my young students

SW-User

It's lust. It will pass in time

Sakurari · 26-30, F

They said that too but It is only getting stronger @Contagious:

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