I Live In a Sexless Marriage

My wife and I are now estranged. We had no sex in 13 years. My fault, brought too much baggage into marriage, was emotionally closed. She had enough asked for divorce. Funny thing, now that we are splitting up we're discovering each other for the first time.

Sadly, I totally agree. Same situation here

In long term this is normal. Why we get complacent and easily nasty.
To balance all the shity side of life, then still to have energy for fun.
Have a date night, do something new and different.
IF you make him wrong and you right, then the odds to be any different are much harder.
Your job in life is to have you be happy, not one other person will do this for you, only you.
Leave him love notes on his pillow, or in his lunch box/bag.
Have a hug every now and then.
When he comes home from work, let him release the day, say 10/15 mins. Then bombard him with the things to do. Be direct, not make hints, men hear blaaaaaa, blaaaaaaaa.
Ask him, why his sex drive is low, can be worry, is he a worry merchant or you?

It's such a tough spot to be in. I'm there too. 21+ years of marriage and about 13 of them completely devoid of ANY intimacy, physical or otherwise. The problem is it feels as though staying isn't worth it, but it also feels like leaving isn't either. I have five children (13-21 yrs old) to consider. Having any one of them hurt by divorce, or hate me is almost inconceivable...And yet so is the thought of living, and dying, with this having been my life.

You do need to ask yourself that. But when asking if staying is worth it, you also have to ask if leaving is worth it.

I think this is the debate many of us have. For me, leaving is not worth what would come with divorce.

I feel for your dilemma.

Well if you love him and he love you then its worth it find a way if you guys truly love each other you will find a way the fight is worth fighting if the love is there. Ask for help

That is incredibly sad. Hope you find that peace and love your heart desires.

That's tough. Best of luck to you.

You have the so-called security of a Partner for a start if the relationship is compatable even without sex.
Sex is inmportant in a marriage but if it stops a good relationship should be able to sort thing out, from either side, yours or you hysbands. Time to talk I would suggest to find out why!

Unfortunately, after nearly 50 years, we bicker a lot and have very little sex. I do sometimes wonder if I can continue this.

Sometimes it's nothing either of you have done people just grow apart after a while it happened with my marriage

Does he love you?
If he does, it just needs thrashing out.
If he doesn't there are loads of people out there in need of a good woman.

I'm so sorry.

You are already feeling the distance. Cut ties and move one. Love yourself and the right one will come along.

(((HUGS)))

You're still very young! Seek professional couples help, or get out! Love would do either.

if your not happy there is no use in staying

It's a sad truth; I can relate.

Hugs sweetie! I know the feeling

Question I ask myself everyday!

SO sad. I feel for you.

Yes, agreed.

Have you spoken to him about it? Hope you work it out or find the happiness your looking for soon.

What has driven you two apart?

Leaving is easier than staying..

Bless your heart....Know the feeling..