I Live In a Sexless Marriage

I have been there. To the outside world, mine is sweet and loving and giving. She wears a mask. I have no advice worth giving since I haven't left either. It would be easier if there were some terrible thing. I used to wish for her to have an affair or announce that she was gay. The fact that she just isn't interested in sex with anyone is not the kind of thing one shares. I think if you get the courage to leave, you won't need to justify it to anyone else. You grew apart is all anyone needs to hear

You left for your sanity. It's your life and people have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.

That is the same thing my ex-wife did to me. And then she came home one day after 11 years of marriage saying Dr. Mike whom she worked with was her soul mate, and we are having a divorce so she could be with her soul mate.

Do you wish to be just like me sitting there wondering when the hell the Real affection and emotions will come from your spouse only to have shit kicked in your face with a divorce demand from your spouse?

Does this help you in your process? I hope so because I learned the hard way some one else was getting her ( For you His ) attention and favors. While I sat there Like waiting and wondering only to get crushed!

Your friend screaming GET OUT!

Its emotional neglect. I consider sexlessness to be a form of sexual abuse. not many peope will agree with it, but I do

I'm sorry.

I truly understand. And living it is hell.

Maybe he had to finish something? If he continually does that, does he not understand what "making you happy" entails? Otherwise it is like constant teasing.

I am sorry you are going thru this

did you respond to him ?

How old?

I would assume you have sat down with him and had a heart to heart regarding your feelings?

Maybe you can bring up having an open marriage, and that will at least open a dialogue for why you want one. And if he is not willing, at least then you can tell him why you are considering leaving.

How long has he been doing that?

If you're good with all the rest, consider dating for sex.

I feel your pain Alexis

How much initiative do you take? If I never took any it would have been a [i]loooong[/i] time before my marriage was consumated