I Live In a Sexless Marriage

You aren't alone with what you are feeling. My wife and I still have sex, but it surely isn't as often as I want and she doesn't do certain things I have asked her for on several occassions; primarily because she hates doing them across the board with anyone. So I only have a love language, I suck at gift giving, and it bothers her a lot; so guys some women do give a fuck about gifts. I have slowly gotten better but I am still regretfully bad at giving gifts.

Geez you can't have it all; you are opposite my wife!

It's like my wife, we have sex missionary and its all soft and loving; then one day she tells me she wants it fast, hard, wet, raunchy, and raw. So I oblidge her and then she accuses me of cheating on her because, "I never give it to her porno style". ROFL... so here is the thing you ought to be happy the guy thinks about you as much as he seems to with gift giving and cheat like everyone else or buy a really nice dildo or vibrator and use it a lot :)

Two things.

1. Yes. Marriage is about supporting your partner, so if sex is important to one it should be as a couple.

2. Time can remove a sex drive. Sorry, but it can happen over time. Not sure what to tell you.

Support is my number one thing. Being there for each other. Number two is friendship. Being best friends.
It’s tough when you don’t have those.

There is a need to be wanted and desired. Not just roommates

I suppose that I normally get it about once every two weeks but I want it a lot more

Well the only language everyone understands is the Horizontal Mambo.

You are not alone my dear !

Nice rant. Sometimes we all need to let it out!

I've read The Five Love Languages, and did a group study on it with my wife. I think there is truth in what it says. But, if you clearly communicate your needs, and they are not met. There are some issues.

I know this all to well.

My marriage isn't totally sexless (last time 3.5 wks ago, but I want it so much more - maybe I'm just too horny

I just wish that my wife actually w wanted it and that she would be happy to get a bit adventurous also

May be there is some lack of romance and romantic moments to break the ice.

Well said.