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Trust and Respect [I Feel So Alone]

Trust and respect should be present in a relationship for it to be healthy, right? I do trust him but my gut is telling me otherwise.


I had my doubts but it never bothered me until early this year. I have a strong feeling that my partner is cheating on me, from little lies and turning the blame on me. I have been waking up in the middle of the night, having a vision of him sleeping with someone else. But today was my breaking point, I heard his brother telling him it's about time that he gets laid (maybe they did it las night) And him shouting “She suck” repeatedly. Forgetting our call was open, he went into the room realizing that I can hear them. He ended the call shortly after.

How could someone tell you that they plan to marry you and do an act like this?

I normally confront him with everything. I wanted us to be transparent with everything. But now, I can either act dumb and just go with the flow or cut all connections from him?
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Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
Trust and respect aren't given in a relationship, they are earned. If you ignore it now, when do you decide you have to open the subject for discussion? In 2 or 3 years when there is a child involved? Maybe 15 years down the road when it is really a whole family that is going to be damaged? I say ask the question, the response will either allow your partner to earn a little trust and respect or let you know that he isn't interested in earning it and just wants to pull the wool over your eyes. Ignoring it just hurts you, a weed has been planted by something you noticed and left on it's own, it will grow and choke everything else out.

One little molehill will eventually turn into a mountain in your relationship.
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