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Trust and Respect [I Feel So Alone]

Trust and respect should be present in a relationship for it to be healthy, right? I do trust him but my gut is telling me otherwise.


I had my doubts but it never bothered me until early this year. I have a strong feeling that my partner is cheating on me, from little lies and turning the blame on me. I have been waking up in the middle of the night, having a vision of him sleeping with someone else. But today was my breaking point, I heard his brother telling him it's about time that he gets laid (maybe they did it las night) And him shouting “She suck” repeatedly. Forgetting our call was open, he went into the room realizing that I can hear them. He ended the call shortly after.

How could someone tell you that they plan to marry you and do an act like this?

I normally confront him with everything. I wanted us to be transparent with everything. But now, I can either act dumb and just go with the flow or cut all connections from him?
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hunkalove · 61-69, M
You could ask him.
Menetics · 26-30, F
@hunkalove I normally would but he’d just dismiss my feelings and the subject.
hunkalove · 61-69, M
@Menetics The love of my life used to ask me if I was cheating on her. In the 8 years we were together I never did but I don't think she believed me.
hunkalove · 61-69, M
@Menetics Maybe you should have a look at his phone?
Menetics · 26-30, F
@hunkalove Did she ever present you with any evidence? And what made her think that you were?
Menetics · 26-30, F
@hunkalove I did, that's why I had doubts to begin with. He kept contacts from women I’m not familiar with and he would claim that they’re spam when confronted. He doesn't even put a name on me in his contacts.
hunkalove · 61-69, M
@Menetics No evidence because I wasn't cheating. I think because she liked me she assumed other women did too. She was a lot younger than me, I was her first real boyfriend. Being jealous made her try harder.
Menetics · 26-30, F
@hunkalove Interesting. We’re the same way. He was my first serious relationship. We have been on and off for 8 years.

I have some evidence against him though. I don't base everything on emotion alone, I try to look for proof to justify my feelings.