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I'd Like To Find My True Love

I am 22 and have never had someone love me, I've been single for 7 years. I've never had a serious relationship. I wonder if anyone will ever come along? Is it normal to be single for this long? Is there someone out there for me? I want love more than anything
Busybee333 · 31-35, F
Being single is perfectly fine! Love cannot be rushed or forced.

It arrives on its own terms and there is pretty much nothing we can do except to be as lovable as we can, to love ourselves and the people around us as much as possible. Just like the spectrum of colors, love has its spectrum: there are many types of loves: not being a couple's love does not devalue it. Love needs to be present in our lives in colorful ways.

Love can be everywhere around you in everything in your life. Seek it, learn it, expand it.

Eventually a couple's love will also happen - your new attitude to life will attract it.

Don't worry - it will happen when it is supposed to. Meanwhile just make sure you stay receptive to it.

People's wisdom: " It is easy to be in couple, it is hard to maintain it" - better take your time and settle when you feel it right with someone you are really sure you can connect deep with, instead of rushing it with whoever out of pressure.

Wishing you all the love of the world! :D ♥
heyitsemma · 26-30, F
@Busybee333 Wow thank you so much!! <3
Busybee333 · 31-35, F
@heyitsemma Someone might love your body just as is! (people tend to look more generally) If this is taking away from your health and happiness, you might consider what you CAN change for YOURSELF because then you will boost your well-being and in result your attractiveness! If it is an element of your appearance that is not under your control, don't sweat it. Do your best with what you can and improve other areas of life as well. No one is perfect but there is charm in progress :) All the best!
heyitsemma · 26-30, F
@Busybee333 Very true, thank you so much for that advice :)
nahright09 · 41-45, M
don't worry about what others consider normal. It'll happen in time and most likely when you're not looking for it. Stop looking for it and worrying about it.
heyitsemma · 26-30, F
@nahright09 I'm always thinking about it hahaha how do I stop
nahright09 · 41-45, M
@heyitsemma it's understandable and i'm sure it's all around you. Sorry don't have any answers on how you stop thinking about it - i went through something like that and just put my energy towards other things.
ABCDEF7 · M
I have been single upto now (40). Never had any relationship or gf or even a friend who is girl, in my life.

Desiring love is a basic Instinct.
Busybee333 · 31-35, F
@ABCDEF7 Single out of choice or out of luck ? Curious as to how people can be alone very long - how do you cope ? Do you seek connection in other ways?
ABCDEF7 · M
@Busybee333 When I started writing answer to your questions, I needed to explain things to make it understand from the perspective I had. Slowly it started to get longer. And now I have decided that I will write a post/story about that.

Thanks for asking. 🙂

Just to answer you in straight and short way for now. It mostly was out of my destiny. It wasn't easier for me, and at times much painful. Yes, through online interactions, most of which them ended as online bro-sis relationships. Lol.. 😅
SW-User
Lol same tbh if you’ve been sheltered like me it feels nice to know that there’s an entire world out there you’re left to discover, and we’re still young so there’s nothing to lose
heyitsemma · 26-30, F
@SW-User Its crazy how everyones lives are so different hey.. Can I ask, do your parents shelter you? Are they strict?
ItsGonnaBeOk · 26-30, M
i know how you feel and i met a woman who felt the same, i wanted love but i didnt truly love the person i am with, i tried to convence my self i love that person but it ended badly.
the woman i met she did the same i knew that cuz i have been there it also ended badly for the both of us.

my advise for you take it slow and careful dont jump into something your not sure of.
heyitsemma · 26-30, F
@ItsGonnaBeOk Great advice, thank you. I did something similar recently.. I dated a guy for 2 months when I knew it wasn't going to work out, he ended up cheating on me with a girl I work with
ItsGonnaBeOk · 26-30, M
@heyitsemma oh i am sorry
heyitsemma · 26-30, F
@ItsGonnaBeOk ehh I dodged a bullet
Jake966 · 56-60, M
I’ll love you
There's always someone out there for everyone. Why do you think you've stayed single so far?
@heyitsemma that's possibly your answer then. It's time for you to get pro-active and change the way you've been looking at yourself!

There are many ways to do this....

I'd say the first thing you need to look at is what it is inside your head that you think you don't like about yourself?
heyitsemma · 26-30, F
@Jimmyorjames I don't like my body.. Sounds silly but it really holds me back
@heyitsemma I don't want you to go more personal than you want to here, but I would like to know what it is you don't like about your body if you're willing to tell.

I mean these things, if their on your mind and holding you back...

They must be acknowledged.

I suppose it depends on what your issue is as to how to deal with it. You're welcome to pm me if it's something you'd rather not tell the whole world
Effloresce · 26-30, F
If it makes you feel any better I’ve never been in a relationship
Effloresce · 26-30, F
heyitsemma · 26-30, F
@Effloresce I feel like society pressures people into relationships
Effloresce · 26-30, F
Oh definitely@heyitsemma
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
As the song says, you can't hurry love... Just be you, it'll happen ;)

 
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