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Ex fiance is hurting

It's easier for him to write his feelings rather than speak them, and he texted me a long message last night saying he loves me and hopes I will "have him in my heart" again one day, but he also won't hate me if I leave.

He said "I've come so far thanks to you" because he lived with his parents when we met, and I pushed him to get a job, get his own place, and start going back to school for Cybersecurity. Which he has done.

I care about him as a person, but I just am no longer in love with him. We were trapped in one room together with no breaks for 3 miserable years, and it just suffocated any romantic feelings I once had. Even now I get zero space or alone time- he and I live AND work together. I hate living in Texas too, so every single day is a nightmare for me.

A new friend of mine has offered me a free place to stay in Phoenix AZ, in a year when my current lease is up. I haven't given an answer yet, but my desperation to leave here has me leaning toward yes. If I go, I know it's going to devastate my ex fiance further. 馃槥 I hate hurting him but I also deserve to be fulfilled after I devoted the last 4 years of my life to an unhappy relationship.

I hate breakups. I hate hurting someone. But I'm not willing to swallow my misery any longer.

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Livingwell56-60, M
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MarineBob56-60, M
Gotta look after #1... That's you.
Firecat3361-69, M
I think you know the answer to this. Just execute it.
HatterM46-50, M
Breakups are always painful, I found, but relationships end when they need to, at least from one perspective and it takes commitment from both, obviously, so if it's not there it's not there. I hope things work out for you both though. You sound decent and loving.

 
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