Gay friend has a crush on me. Any advice?

I've known this guy since grade school, and I never really spoke with him that much, but today, he revealed that back in high school, he's had a huge crush on me, and is being very flirtatious and such............which is extremely awkward and embarrassing.

Don't get me wrong, I completely support LGBT rights and such, but I'm just not one of them myself.

He's a nice guy and all, but I just don't feel that way towards men, only towards women.

Anyone have any advice for me?

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Fangirlsarah1996 · 26-30, F Best Comment

Just be straight with him (Pun not intended)

Just say something like "Listen, I respect you, but I'm not into men, but I want to stay friends"

Though advice from a lesbian on this topic may be slightly unreliable xD

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Fangirlsarah1996 · 26-30, F

@rottenrobi: Yeah, honestly in those situations is best.

Plus it's better to get it over and done with asap...that way it hurts them less.

rottenrobi · 56-60, F

I completely agree, especially if its making him squirm uncomfortably. Nip it in the bud, and save a friendship.

pride49 · 31-35, M

@Fangirlsarah1996: lol I'd be like well shit...Whatever I'm still gonna hit on you to make you squirm then Ahahaha...naw I'd just be "ok." Sulk. and never speak to you again probably.

Nat15 · F

Just be honest with him. Say, "I've noticed you've been flirting with me. I'm really flattered by that, but it makes me uncomfortable. I'm just not that way. I'm totally heterosexual. I still wanna be friends, but I don't want that awkwardness when you flirt. I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings, but I value your friendship and I want to be honest with you."

Gangstress · 41-45, F

Be honest and say sorry your a good mate but nothing more.

bostonspdo · M

Strange that most of the advice is from females, but it's largely good advice. He's been open with you about this so you can bring up the topic without worrying about embarrassing or offending him. Tell him that you can be friends but there's no sexual interest so would he please not flirt. He may be disappointed but if he's a good guy, he'll honor your wishes.

gurlwatcher22 · 61-69, M

Take the blow job and be happy.He may even be better at it than most chicks! Then let him down easy with the line chicks use on us guys,"But we can still be friends, right?"

Gwapa · 36-40, F

I suggest to be upfront with this gay friend. Tell him that you're not interested in butt s3x. Good luck

sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M

honesty? try that some time.

you'll find gays (in general) are very mature minded individuals.

MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M

just joke with him whenever he brings up sexual subjects, like being sarcastic and such, that's what i always do!

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