Why change gender?

Taking a break from all the dark humor and trolling around. I have a serious question.

Disclaimer: I support anyone wanting to change their own gender. It ain't hurting anyone and it's their life, their decision.

With that being said... why? I'm legitimately curious and want to know. I mean, to a large extent, society has come to a general consensus that we should do away with gender roles. We're becoming more open-minded to allowing boys to play with Barbie dolls or do ballet, while allowing women to ride motorcycles, play baseball, or join the military. We're not quite all the way there in some topics, but we're headed there. So... assuming the person reading this believes we should, in fact, remove gender roles, norms, or what-have-you, why would you want to change gender?

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SarahAndSamantha · 46-50, F Best Comment

gender roles are a part of it to a degree. But it's more than that.

Roleplay with me here a bit (no, not the pervy kind :P) I'm assuming your cisgender (aka 'normal' if you must). Now, imagine tomorrow you woke up in a female body. After you finished with your three hour shower (yeah, we KNOW what you're doing in there :P) How soon would you just want to be back in that body that you're used to? The one where you actually feel right? What lengths would you go to to get back to it?

We kinda woke up like that when we were born. Before we even knew it.

does that make sense?

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SarahAndSamantha · 46-50, F

@LookingForSomethingNew thank you for BA, and also for being respectful with your curiosity. :)

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LookingForSomethingNew · 26-30, M

@silkydrawers Interesting... this particular feeling you get is hard for me to wrap my head around, as I never really cared about being either gender. The only reason I wouldn't want to be a woman now is

- The cost for surgery

- I hate the thought of people with sharp tools poking around me

That's about it. But if it was free and I could be a woman at the twirl of a wand, I don't think I'd mind being one. I'm indifferent about it, I guess. But again, that's just me. I appreciate the both of you for having shared your perspective.

BlueVeins · 22-25

Just to avoid the gender dysphoria, I reckon. It's not the rigid boundaries of gender that are the problem; transwomen aren't just upset about not being allowed to wear skirts and stuff growing up. Their brains are kinda just wired to only be able to accept identification as women. I don't really know how to explain it.

LookingForSomethingNew · 26-30, M

@BlueVeins I'm hoping a transgender user can answer in the near future, so that we can have a more solid idea.

SW-User

@BlueVeins @LookingForSomethingNew dysphoria is 100% it (I'm trans)

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StevexStephie · 70-79

@silkydrawers You look wonderful as a woman! Sexy, cute, desirable, arousing, feminine, gurlie, I wish I had more words to describe how wonderful you make me feel!

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SW-User

Gender expression and gender identity are independent of each other. Gender is wired into your brain and when you're trans you have gender dysphoria, and you feel a discomfort with the gender you were assigned at birth. It's less changing your gender and more being your true gender

LookingForSomethingNew · 26-30, M

@SW-User I'm not sure if I follow as I don't really seem to grasp "gender identity" or "gender expression" all too well. I could see a girl acting similar to me, in my mind. And I would be totally fine being a woman, at the snap of the fingers. So I'm having trouble understanding the concept due to my perspective, I guess.

MushroomFaerie

Some people who feel differently inside don't change their gender, others do, its a personal choice

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MushroomFaerie

@LookingForSomethingNew well when you are inside the womb your body develops one way and your brain can develop the other way, some people come out and grow up happy to be gay or whatever but some feel very strongly that they are infact in the wrong body and they are, they have the brain of the other gender and others see them the way they are not and it makes them feel invisible like nobody really knows who they are... Its very painful for them

LookingForSomethingNew · 26-30, M

@MushroomFaerie Hmmmm... why would someone think being one gender make them not be recognized by society? Or rather, does it make sense to change yourself based on how you believe society will perceive you?

MushroomFaerie

@LookingForSomethingNew again personal preference. Generally you see a man for example, you treat him as a man, he might identify as a woman and he knows hes being treated and precieved as a man and it makes him feel like shit, take another man who identifies as a woman being treated and precieved as a man, knows it and is okay with it. Could some of them use therapy? Yes, people and society are cruel but even then some people just genuinely want to change gender for no other reason other than that is what they want

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