How do you deal with homophobia?

@fairefoutre
[quote]I really dislike having deviance shoved in my face.[/quote]

This was exactly my reference.

@SapphicHeart Yes...no matter the nature.

@Ellen
Exactly !

@xixgun
Maybe, I'm only saying maybe it might be connected to something else than neglecting hate crimes towards heterosexuals...

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But then again, it won't fit into your narrative... I got you something...

@SapphicHeart Well, you can drop the "narrative" horse shit, because I don't have one. I'm telling you what I personally have had to deal with.

And, never having been a small, unathletic, smart, teenage boy; you have no idea that you get label a homosexual (and bullied accordingly) by just about everyone. In case you wondered why "nerds" are always so sex obsessed, it's because they desperately want everyone to know that they are most definitely straight.

My point, was that if we're all human and should all be respected equally, then let's actually follow that and not be selective about the groups which are to be respected.

And if you found anything in my comment to be homophobic, then that's on you, and only - on you.

@xixgun
Oh my. If you had given attention towards my very first comment for your reply here, you'd see that my approach to hate crime is that all hate crime is equally bad.

I'm sorry for your personal, and traumatizing experiences being harassed because of your physical appearance. I won't try to marginalize it, just as much as I won't for the OP. However, it's exactly what you're doing to the OP with your initial reply for him. You're trying to edit / tell him how he can talk about his experience by telling him it's not okay to mention he's homosexual and that's part of why he first place has met this hate crime he's talking about. Does it take away anything of your own experience that he does this ? I doubt it does.

As for your reply to me, no you didn't tell me about your own experiences. You did in your original reply for the OP justify your approach telling him off by you yourself having to deal with homophobia, [i]even[/i] though you were straight. However, you did say [i]... because the victim is a homosexual, the crime is given a special status; when if the victim was straight - you'd never hear about it at all.[/i] Hence my reference to the statistics of hate crimes based on sexuality. There will be reasons why hate crime towards homosexuals are more mentioned than towards heterosexuals merely based on the huge differences in occurrences. That said, your typical right wing media outlets will make sure to emphasize when heterosexuals are victims of hate crime, and in higher rates [compared to occurrences] than the homosexuals.

Isn't it sad that you focus more on telling the victim [well-knowing what being a victim does to you] to [u]not[/u] tell his story in the ways he does to deal with it to meet his needs, rather than focusing your "anger" towards the ones who victimized him, as yourself ? Personally I find it sad and a sign of the time we live in, where we blame the victims rather than the ones conducting the crimes.

With this, peace out to you and may you be able to get over your trauma from back in your youth at a time. I hope you with time will be able to place your harm towards the predators rather than the homosexuals when dealing with this.

@YukikoAmagi That is good, please stay safe, and private, that would make you some sort of enigma. I come from a mining area where homosexuality was not in everyone's face when growing up in the 1980's, then Aids came along then all the really bigoted comments would surface and the gay community had the blame for this disease regardless of it coming from druggies as well as unprotected promiscuous sex and monkeys in Africa.

@AndrewC1993 You may be free and liberated by being out, and it is honest, but is it completely safe ? It is still wise to be a very private person and not be too open about it as even in the 21st century there are still homophobic people out there who just don't understand. I mean, how would you cope with homophobic slurs and comments and jokes, not being able to hold hands in public in case it provokes a homophobic attack. ?

@Andy69 I mean I'm open, even how I express myself but I value privacy too. And I live in Ireland so its quite laid back at times.

@VeronicaPrincess Exactly!