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I Wish Cancer Didnt Exist

My father has terminal liver cancer and is not expected to live past this year. Hospice has come to his room to discuss with him care and living arrangements. I am the only next of kin who will be deciding what happens when he can no longer make anymore decisions. I will also be covering funeral costs. This is very overwhelming, and I must travel to Texas when it happens.
I am sorry for what you and your father are going through. Where is he going to live? If with you, do you have caregivers? The social workers and discharge people will be providing you with lots of info about what to expect. It is going to be a rough ride. Pain will be a major issue. Does he have insurance to help the costs of the funeral? You should lean on family and friends. Vent. Spend time with him. Quality time. And take care of yourself too. Prepare a list of concerns or problems. Then get answers. Good luck.
PoisonLace · 41-45, F
@PoetryNEmotion He is in a nursing home now, and has no life insurance. He lives out of state and I will have to travel there for him. His family has pretty much left everything to me and doesn't want much to do with the situation except for visiting. His closest living relative is his 80 year old sister, and he has nieces and nephews. I am his only next of kin.
4meAndyou · F
Make sure he has a living will all filled out. That way, instead of you making all his decisions he is making them now. Find out from hospice if your father will receive any money from medicare or medicaid for funeral expenses. If he was a veteran, funeral expenses are covered. Contact the funeral home near where your father would be buried and discuss costs over the phone. Find out if they have payment plans.
PoisonLace · 41-45, F
@4meAndyou Thank you so very much for that advice. He was not a veteran, but I will definitely ask more questions. I have also asked him to make a will, but he doesn't really have anything to his name, or anything he really feels he wants to give away. I would like to have something to remember him by, but it is up to him to make a will. Thank you!
xixgun · M
My sympathies.
I lost both parents to cancer, and Murphy's Law being what it is, peek with apprehension at every medical exam I receive.
PoisonLace · 41-45, F
@xixgun With all the family members I've had who have died of cancer, I have been really wanting to get checked out, however, never get the chance to do it. I am definitely hoping to do that soon once I get my insurance reinstated.
I'm so sorry. My husband had to go through this a couple of years ago. Stay strong 🤗
HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
I’m so sorry. That’s a lot on your shoulders. Hugs
luvin2flirt · 61-69, M
Bless your heart 🤗 best of luck sweetie
LG1976 · 46-50, F
Hugs and prayers for you and your dad xo
Hugs.. that's hard..I'm here if you ever need a friend

 
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