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I'd Rather Get To Know You Than Small Talk

I hate small talk. I find it difficult to keep thinking of "stuff" to talk about. Constant questioning and chatting is enough to drive me absolutely insane. I fear that I will say something ignorant or tactless if I talk too much. I feel put on the spot if people ask me too many questions.

For this reason ( and other reasons I won't bore you with ) I do not enjoy parties or social gatherings. I will never be the sort of person who will add life to a dinner party. I have never been able to regale people with entertaining, fascinating stories. I also have never been good at telling jokes or making people laugh. I have never been able to think of witty responses to things people say to me. I am extremely awkward and uncomfortable in these kinds of social interactions. Further, these activities don't interest me or have any appeal to me.

However, I am not a complete antisocial snob. I am interested in learning about people and hearing their life stories. I always pay attention and remember what people share with me about themselves. Many people are amazed when I can recall so many details about their lives. They don't realize that I pay attention and have a good memory. I would actually much rather listen to your life story than tell you mine ( the latter is incredibly dull and depressing ).

I tend to ask people a lot of questions. My intention is never to embarrass people or put them on the spot. It comes out of what I refer to as respectful curiosity. I am genuinely interested, and I won't judge you. If there is something you would rather not discuss, then I will respect that and not continue to press the issue.

The reason I don't like to be around people who ask me a lot of questions is most people use my answers as a basis to lecture me or give me a lot of annoying unsolicited advice. I think the main reason I despise small talk is that I feel put on the spot.
Planter715 · 61-69, MVIP
You sound just like I do. I enjoy conversations as long as it isn't something I'm not interested in or something I don't know anything about. I hate crowds. I enjoy being with a person by myself. I do not like to be around people who try to be stand up comics. I enjoy getting to know people. I hate small talk. I hate it when people try to be funny. I like people who respect the way a person is and their lifestyle. I like people who respect and accept what a person believes. I don't want a person to try and be something or someone they are not.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@Planter715: i hate when people get mad that you dont know what they're talking about. Not every body is keeping up with the kardashians..
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iamnikki · 31-35, F
I despise small talk because it doesnt go anywhere. Everyday coworkers talk about the weather,the job etc. We know we dont want to be at work so why make it the number 1 topic of conversation??
I hate taking to other chatty customers in the checkout line because,im nevee gonna see you again. Why should i care what your kid did at school today?.
Planter715 · 61-69, MVIP
I would like a person stay on the topic of conversation unless they want to know more about me. I don't like people to jump from one thing to another. I hate to hear about what their family did. I could care les what their family does. I enjoy personal experiences. Just keep it personal.

 
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