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So I broke up with my BFF and I'm honestly okay with it. Is there something wrong with me?

At first it wasn't intentional. I was only planning with a cool off since it was pretty much obvious we both needed it. So I sent her a message before unfriending her in social media telling her I know she's hurting but the way it is now we're both hurting each other so it's better this way. Of course I added that she can message me when she's ready to be a good friend again.

Then she replied. Apparently, she thought I treated her like a slave when that was how I felt she treated me. She also mentioned a lot of things and I thought it's time I also tell her what it was like for me to go to places I didn't even want to go just to please her and to be treated like her personal photographer that I couldn't even enjoy the trip.

In the end, it was clear we have our differences.

The biggest difference though is that she claims she thinks I'm her friend despite treating me like crap with one word messages. I know it's probably my pride speaking that I have other friends and don't need her.

But to be honest, if that is how she treats me then I really don't. And I told her I'm done. And now I'm okay with it.

Breakups (even with a friend) are supposed to be really hurting, gut wrenching where you pour out of your heart and cry. I've been doing that, seeking advice from friends minus the crying. They actually told me to give it time. But that was before I messaged and she replied.

Now I just want her to realize that the reason I don't want to be with her is the same reason for her last breakup. She makes me feel like I have to be someone else when I'm with her. I know I have my issues but I wasn't born to please her and that's why I think it's freeing to stop being friends.
Break Ups are NOT suppose to be dramatic & heartwrenching.

You should feel lighter & your life improves when you get rid of people who are bad for you!
Casheyane · F
@DarlingSelah It would be really good if it's like that.
Am I the only one who believes in a good, old fashioned Ghosting? 👻
Casheyane · F
@MorbidCynic You can do that but I'm not very good at it. I had to end things properly so I can move on. I had to know what I want so I could give up on someone. Even then, I'm not still sure if I have truly given up on a person. You can part ways and end relationships. But if she ends up crying to me over something and says she needs a friend, I'm still in the mind to be there for her.
I been through the same situation minus the confrontation. I just let the friendship fade away. I don't know if it was fair for him tbh but it wouldn't be fair to keep pretending that I agree with his views on somethings either and we'd be both miserable.
Casheyane · F
@PiecingBabyFaceTogether That's true. I just, well the hardest thing to be is to pretend. I don't want to be fake, especially not as a friend. Initially we were fine. It was fine. I have the best intentions for her. But then she has a habit of misinterpreting things and seeing the worst in me and suddenly it became too difficult and tiring, like I have to explain things to a child. In the end, she sticks by what she think she knows anyway. So I felt it's useless to even explain. I just let her.
blendednotshaken · 51-55, M
@Casheyane if you aren't even capable of speaking to and getting through to her it sounds too difficult.
Theandyb · 36-40, M
she should like you as you are.. for you and not someone she likes you to be. If she can’t do that then I don’t think that’s real friendship . Sorry
Casheyane · F
@Theandyb Thanks for that :) I realized it too.
SilentShadow0110 · 31-35, F
Trust your instincts in what you do was right. I'm getting rid of mine "Friends" soon too.
grayhalo · 41-45, M
Nothing wrong with you at all. You feel okay with it because you are no longer being fit into the mold of a person that isn't you. She may still be your friend again. Maybe not as close, but still a friend. We don't have to be the same kinds of people or like the same kinds of things to be friends. Although it helps.
BondGirl84 · 36-40, F
It sounds like u have done the right thing!
Casheyane · F
@BondGirl84 Thanks for sharing that :) So, you don't miss her anymore?
BondGirl84 · 36-40, F
@Casheyane not anymore, have other friends too.
Casheyane · F
@BondGirl84 :) That's great!
SW-User
Nah, she sounds like a shit friend, it is best to move on and find better friends to have around ya.
Casheyane · F
@SW-User Well she's not a really shitty friend. She has her good sides though yes I would say she has a lot of shitty moments haha. Thanks :)
SW-User
Is this how people try to work shit out?
Casheyane · F
@SW-User It's different for everybody. How do you try to work shit out?
SW-User
Dramaaaaaah
No, the fact that you feel relief is [b]proof[/b] that it was the right decision. There’s nothing wrong with you [b]or[/b] that. 🙂
Casheyane · F
@bijouxbroussard I couldn't really call it relief but it's not as bad as it should be considering she's my best friend. I'm worried it's ego talking haha.

 
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