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To say this is manipulative?

Called friend out on her distant behaviour and she said she doesn't agree with a situation I am in but feels she can't say anything as doesn't want to be seen as the bad guy. A week on she texted saying she can't meet with me as she feels very anxious about everything and its making a condition of hers worse. Do you see this as manipulative?
BluePlanet
36-40, M
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SheCallsMeCrushDaddy · M
i think she wants to tell you whats goin on, but, she is afraid that it will further damage her relationship with you.
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BluePlanet · 36-40, M
@SheCallsMeCrushDaddy This is most likely true but where do we go from here?
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SStarfish ·
The woman is someone who cares about you but you are inconsiderate of her feelings so i dont even blame her for avoiding you. Furthermore you basicly told her to stay away.. So

Maybe think about what you are doing instead of calling other people names
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BluePlanet · 36-40, M
@SStarfish Where did I say I told her to stay away?
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SStarfish ·
@BluePlanet in your other post..
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LuciaRose · 31-35, F
I think she’s just being expressive and open. If something is affecting her and you’ve pulled her up on it, she’s being trying to be honest with you rather than carrying on with her “distant” behaviour.
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BluePlanet · 36-40, M
@LuciaRose I just found it a bit passive aggressive and guilt tripping
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SW-User
Sounds as if it’s her way or the highway. 😏
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BluePlanet · 36-40, M
@SW-User Yes. 😐
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MushroomFaerie
What's your situation? Can't say if we don't know
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BluePlanet · 36-40, M
@MushroomFaerie A relationship that she believes is a rebound
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4meAndyou · F
Not at all. She may have anxiety, which is a real thing.
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SW-User
No. She has every right to feel like she does
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Wurkoutgurl · 46-50, F
Not really. What's the situation you're in?
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caccoon · 36-40
No, she has every right to make decisions about what is best for her. Unless she is pressing you to change, which it doesn't sound like she is.
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BluePlanet · 36-40, M
@caccoon but to suggest I am making her ill is surely manipulative
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caccoon · 36-40
@BluePlanet Not necessarily. Also, from your post it seems as though the condition she has was pre-existing. It is possible for something going on with you too cause her stress, and deteriorate her health.

Anyway, blah blah. I don't know your situation fully, so my opinion means nothing.
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InOtterWords · F
No. She has told you how she feels about something and the impact it is having on her
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BluePlanet · 36-40, M
@InOtterWords Yet she won't talk about it....
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InOtterWords · F
@BluePlanet that is unfair.

Not communicating will not solve anything
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BluePlanet · 36-40, M
@InOtterWords Said she will be seen as the bad guy
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