Not a question. I am interested in your thoughts and feelings about what a friend of mine told...

SW-User

This guy sounds like a serious burden. He needs to get a grip and realize you simply care for him. I'd tell him to offer proof of a DNR or he can have his pass out episodes somewhere else. I don't want to risk going to prison for allowing this to happen to him just to find out he didn't even have a DNR in the first place.

pennynoodles · 56-60, F

You may remember me telling you about my dad who the ambulance crew tried to resuscitate, 45 minutes after he died. Although he was in organ failure, because neither him or my mum had signed a DNR, they were legally bound to try and resuscitate him. Ask your friend where he has it written that he is a DNR. It is important that you know, if these are his wishes and feel free to use my scenario if you like to explain how important it is. Thank goodness my dad did not come back to life after 45 minutes....can you imagine the brain damage?
At one point the police were going to be called in as my mum hadn't called the ambulance for about twenty minutes after his death. I don't know if the law is the same over there but you do need to talk this through with him.

Salix75 · 46-50, F

If it were me, I'd call 911. I'd rather risk losing a friendship than risk someone losing their life or further injury.

if he's that adamant about what should/should not be done, then he should get smart about it and wear a bracelet so folks around him know what's happening (epileptic seizure? narcolepsy? etc) and so EMT know his situation.

Pinkstarburst

Next time call 911. The DNR is between your friend and the hospital. If they are that adamant about it they should wear a bracelet or have it noted on file at the medical facility.

SweetMae · 70-79, F

I would have called 911. He wasn't wearing any proof of the DNR.

Carla · 61-69, F

Next time call 911. Choices are... a dead friend or a living ex friend.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

This is a very complex question. You never have a LEGAL requirement to call 911 or not. There are all sorts of problems with this question. If you are a drug abuser and a fellowvdrug abuser collapses, and you call 911, in some jurisdiction, if policebrespobd and find you "in possession" you could be arrested.

DNR is also only designed to prevent resuscitation, not all treatment.

Also no one has ever successfully sued someone for savingn their life.

Montanaman · M

Tough situation, but if it were me, I'd always dial 911, and let the burden roll on them.

SW-User

I mean, if you knew he was there and was in danger, you could be held responsible depending on where you're from. EMTs don't care for most jewellery or anything of the sort unless it's standardised, just like they don't care for tattoos that say "DNR". They need paperwork. If they don't have that paperwork, they're going to do whatever they can to keep that person alive.

Zaphod42 · 46-50, M

I would say from a legal stand point he either needs to start wearing a DNR bracelet/necklace or you need to stop letting him come over. You could easily be charged with negligent manslaughter if he died with no clear indication of flat refusal of medical services.

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M

What kind of asshole would put you in a position like that??

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I've never heard about DNR until now. Interesting. What are the reasons for this legal order?

I'd call 911.

Not a question. I am interested in your thoughts and feelings about what a friend of mine told me to do last week.