Why is it that some people actually go out of their way to be losers?

I have experienced this in my time as an employer. I believe one has to have a will to, at least go half way to meeting the people who offer support.

many people have tunnel vision and their interpretation is what the want to believe instead of looking at the wider picture.

@erikman48 that does make a lot of sense. And many other comments here do too especially the pity seekers. Remember I'm only saying this about people who "go out of their way" and not people who really do have it bad without a choice. I'm trying to figure out how to identify the difference.

@NankerPhelge True

@SW-User Exactly